Whether you are in a relationship with your child’s mother/father, or someone else, you deserve a relationship that is healthy, safe, and positive.
A Healthy Relationship
In a healthy relationship:
- You respect each other.
- Appreciating each other and not trying to force change on yourself or your partner. Your partner should think you’re the greatest, and you should think he or she is, too.
- Neither of you expects the other person to completely give up doing things alone, just because you are in a relationship.
- Each of you is able to compromise, or take turns when choosing things to do. No one gets their way all the time in a relationship.
- Neither of you tries to make the other do something that they don’t want to do.
- You trust each other.
- You know that your partner is doing the right thing, even when you’re not there. There’s no need to check up on your partner, or to suspect him/her of lying to you.
- You’re honest with each other.
- You can be your real selves with each other.
- You support each other.
- In the good times, your partner celebrates with you. In the tough times, your partner is there to help.
An Unhealthy Relationship
Some relationships are not healthy, and some are even dangerous. These relationships are not good for you or your family.
In an unhealthy relationship:
- Your partner does not respect you, and wants to control you.
- Your partner says mean things to you, or calls you names.
- Your partner does not think you are the greatest, but instead wants you to change.
- Your partner wants you to drop everything to do what he or she wants.
- Your partner wants you to drop out of activities you enjoy.
- Your partner gets mad when you put your child first.
- Your partner does not trust you.
- He or she does not want you to see your friends or family.